What to Say at a Funeral
Although death is one of the things that are certain in life, most if not all people still find it difficult to deal with it when placed in this situation. Grieving for the death of a loved one is a long process that takes time and acceptance. However, with the help and concern of other people, this process is made a little easier for the people who are in grief.
During funerals, many people are careful about the words they say or actions they do in front of the grieving family members. Generally, the attendees do not want to give additional grief to those affected, hence the tendency is to keep quiet and simply extend their support silently. People who attend funerals must be aware of the proper etiquettes to be observed during this time and observe the do’s and don’ts.
The most common and sincere way of extending your sympathy is to say “I am sorry” to the bereaved for his loss. These three words are enough to convey to the grieving person that you understand the importance of the deceased person in his life and that you share his sadness. These words are enough to show that you sincerely care for the bereaved.
More than talking, listening is very important during funerals. Studies show that people who have suffered losses accept their situation quickly with the help of other people who are willing to listen and help them deal with their grief. During this period, the bereaved needs to express his sadness and anger together with the memories of the deceased person.
The need to talk is an outlet of letting out all of their feelings about the situation. A person does a lot of help simply by listening. It is best not to push the bereaved to talk about his lost loved one rather this should be a spontaneous thing. You should refer to the deceased person by name, using no other terms. Memories are bound to come up during your conversation with the aggrieved, and no matter how repetitive it might become, just try to be patient in listening.
Nonverbal actions are equally important during funerals. A gentle, sincere hug or a shoulder to cry on is what a bereaved person needs to feel to know that he is not alone in his grief. Death brings out the vulnerability of every person hence the simplest touch could be a source of strength for the grieving people.
Grieving is normal as it forms part of our complex emotions as human beings. Grief is not something we can simply set aside. During funerals, it is suggested that you ask the bereaved if you can do anything to help them. Even if they do not have anything in mind, it helps a lot on the part of a grieving person to know that he is surrounded by friends that care for his welfare. Support in whatever form will be greatly appreciated by the bereaved and will weigh favorably on their acceptance of their situation. Death is hard to accept but can be made easier by the love extended by people who truly care.