Have you lost someone you love, and sensed that they’re trying to reach out, send you signs, or let you know they’re okay? After death communications occur frequently but often we do not recognize the small more subtle attempts. Have you wondered how you might recognize these messages and have a clearer connection with your deceased loved ones? I’ve found that it’s remarkably easy, if you just do certain things. Easy things. Or pay attention to other things, both big and little. The payoff and the ripple affects from such a connection is life changing. Through advising countless people who have lost loved ones, I have learned that my beautiful experience can be yours–that your deceased loved one can be your secret weapon, your staunchest ally, your heavenly eyes and ears. My sister, who died at age seventeen twenty-three years ago, has guided me into some of the best work and life situations I’ve ever experienced. I want that for you too. I want your relationship with your loved one to be one of the most fulfilling, protective, fun, natural, and beautiful things in your world–so much so that you’ll believe as I do now, that death is a beautiful part of life. A beginning, not an “end.”
The sheer brutality of having to say goodbye to a person who gives your life meaning is unbearable. But, because of how gut wrenching my sister’s death was for me, because of how horrible and “unfair” it was to my parents and my other older sister, to my grandparents, and Kathy’s young friends–most of who had never seen death–I had to find the silver lining. If not, I would have gone nuts. Like my friend who used to wake up at night insanely trying to figure out ways to pull a Victor Frankenstein and go to the funeral parlor and bring her father back from the dead. That’s how crazy our minds get when experiencing the inconceivable pain of loss. So, even though I’m not a fan of the entire “unfair” system, it did quickly become obvious to me that it was futile trying to fight it. I mean; death has been around a lot longer than I.
Maybe you’re dealing with a loved one with whom you had unfinished business. Maybe you hadn’t loved them so well in the months or years before they passed. If there’s healing to do on that relationship, we have suggestions for that. Maybe you’re angry at God, and have lost your faith. I’ve been there myself, and am happy to report that I’ve regained trust and a solid footing in that area. Maybe you’re already receiving signs and messages from your loved one and just want a few more fun ideas about how to deepen that connection. I’ve got plenty of those. And whatever your situation, the result is the same–the love endures. It never dies. It heals.
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